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18+: 2 Reasons Why Single Women Over The Age of 40 Have a Hard Time Finding Love

Yes, you can find love. But you need to face reality. There’s no other way to say it: Dating over 40 sucks.

Our faces are blighted with wrinkles and age spots. Our bosoms sag to our ribcage and our fannies droop. Our slim waistlines have been replaced with doughnuts. Don’t even think about wearing short-shorts in the summer.

You dated for many years as one of the single women over 40. The men I wanted to date never asked you out, or if I went out with a great guy, I never heard from him again. I realised there are two top reasons why mature women are unable to attract and hold the sincere interest of quality men:

A critical, judgemental, closed mind-set

High expectations (code for: unreasonable and unattainable)

Single women over 40 can be uncompromising about their “List”

Woman are infamous for “The List,” a column of checkmark boxes that characterise the traits and attributes that must characterise the man they will date or marry.

A closed-minded woman automatically rejects a man on superficial information. If he shows up on a first date wearing the wrong shirt, or his haircut or eyeglasses are out of date, or he is bit reserved, she pulls out her Sharpie and she discards him like the evening trash.

Or if she gives him a second date, she doesn’t like his house, dog, car or his favourite TV shows and she closes her mind to the possibility that this man is an intelligent, loving, stable diamond in the rough eager to be polished.

I’m amazed at the fantasy list of some women: Deep pockets, expensive house, luxury automobiles. A plus-sized female friend told me she wouldn’t accept a blind date with a man because he was fat.

Single women over 40 can be uncompromising about their “List”. They’ve lived their first life. They got rid of their self-serving, cheating boyfriend or they divorced their overbearing, abusive husband. They sent their children off to university and they’re self-supporting.

It’s “me-time” they say – and they conjure a long list of must-haves and deal breakers that no man can measure up to.

I met my husband on a dating site. I knew on our first date he wasn’t the silver-haired bad boy I was impulsively attracted to. There was no titillating chemistry. His clothes were frumpy, drab and tired. His conversation was restrained. He was balding and 20kg overweight.

But something in my gut told me he was the real deal – and so I consented to a second date.

In truth, I dated him because he had a farm with animals; I thought it would be fun to ride a horse and pet a cow. I continued dating him because he wined and dined me, he adored me, and he never made me worry. I fell in love with his heart and I married him. Today, my husband has a closet full of snazzy clothes, he sports a Michael Douglas hairdo, he lost 20kg, and I own my first horse.
If you’re dating over 40, I’m not saying lower your standards…

And I’m not saying you should settle for Mr. So-So. I am saying get rid of your fantasy laundry list and give a man a chance to show you his best and most enduring qualities. You may discover that the perfect man for you is wrapped in a different package.

And as to my plus-sized girlfriend? I convinced her to give big boy a chance. She did. She fell deeply in love with him, saying he was the best man who had ever been in her life. And she married him

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