In order to meet success, long-term relationships do take work. Many couples share in the sense that their relationships lack fulfillment after a period of time. While turmoil in any relationship is part of the course, long-term feelings of neglect or a lack of desire are not.
The secret to keeping love alive is in putting forth the effort that you did when love was new.
Indeed, partners often wonder why their relationships fail, where those loving feelings have gone, or why they feel under-appreciated by their partners. This generally happens after the “honeymoon period”. In some cases, couples may not experience this sense of loss for years.
But what about the couples that never seem discontented, whose displays of admiration for one another are apparent even after decades of marriage. Indeed, they are doing something right. Happily married couples with a long history together, have managed to preserve some of the elements that were present while they were in the early stages of courtship.
Consider the time when you and your current partner were dating before things got serious. Though you had a lot of fun, you were probably putting in a great deal of effort to keep them interested. What were those things you did differently, and how does the past compare with the present?
Is romance necessary in a relationship?
Romance is one of the most crucial elements to happiness in relationships.
Many partners do not really know what romance is or how to implement it. Understanding why romance is so crucial is a necessary first step to those interested in rekindling love. But what are the little things you did to get his attention, to keep him interested, to win him over? We’d be willing to bet those things are no longer happening.
We often do not realize how much work we were putting in in the beginning, nor do we notice our decreased effort, and how that can lead to an emotional breakdown and stagnancy.
So what is romance and why is it important in a relationship?
Generally, romance includes one or more of the following:
1. Small actions that convey affection, adoration, thoughtfulness, and love
2. Activities or actions of novelty-actions executed for no other purpose than to enhance feelings of joy and connectedness
3. Class – activities or events that add a touch of high living.
Any actions which bring a couple closer or show thoughtfulness and adoration
4. Romance needs to be a normal and necessary part of our lives. And the truth is there are no secrets to romance – you need to know what works for your partner; what makes them happy and apply them as often as you can to sweeten your relationship.
Sustaining a marriage demands work, cooperation, and commitment. A couple is already accustomed to these things but marriage does not have to be all about ‘hard work’. You are in a marriage because, at the bottom line, you love and cherish your partner.
When you decide to use romance to enhance your marriage, you decide to use it as a tool to show that you care, that your marriage and partner are worth the effort. These small acts collectively will make your relationship stronger, healthier and make it last longer.